Are You Truly Happy With Your Life?

It’s a big question, isn’t it – are you truly happy with your life? Now, I’m not saying you have to feel amazing about every single area all the time (that’s not realistic). But if you were to sit down and write out the different areas of your life, would you say you’re happy with the majority of them? And which areas do you know deep down you’re not happy with?

For example, let’s say you’re really stressed about money. That’s not just a little thing you can sweep under the carpet – financial stress is huge, and it affects your whole wellbeing. And when you’re trying to conceive, stress is one of the biggest blocks you can come up against.

Way back in the day, when men and women didn’t have the comfort of homes like we do now, life was about survival. Men hunted, women cared for the shelter, and there were always threats around – wild animals, weather, rival tribes. The body, being so clever, had its own safety mechanism. If the environment didn’t feel safe, the woman’s body would not allow her to fall pregnant. Why? Because pregnancy requires stability, and if she needed to run or escape danger, carrying a child would put her at risk.

Now fast forward to today. We don’t have the same dangers, but the body still works in the same way. If your mind is telling your body “it’s not safe” – whether that’s through financial stress, work pressure, toxic family members, or even unhappiness with where you live. Your body can respond as though there’s an environmental threat. It doesn’t actually know what’s going on, but it takes its cues from you. And if it senses it’s not safe, it may do everything it can to block conception.

This is why looking at your whole life matters when it comes to fertility. It’s not just about your reproductive health, it’s about how happy and balanced you feel overall.

From my own experience, I created a roadmap I like to call ‘The Six Pillars of Life’. These are:

1.Self

2.Romantic Relationships & Family

3.Social Life/Friendships

4.Work/Projects

5.Giving Back

6.Finances

These six pillars are the foundation of your life. so If one of them is out of balance, the foundation wobbles. But in the same respect, if one area starts to improve, it has a domino effect and lifts the others up too.

Here’s a simple exercise:

• Take a piece of paper and write each pillar down.
• Under each one, write what’s going well and what’s not going so well.
• Be really honest with yourself about how you feel when you think about each area.

For example, maybe your family are always asking you to do things for them, which leaves you with no time for your own self-care. That’s an imbalance. Or maybe you love your work but feel drained in your friendships — that’s another imbalance.

The point isn’t to have every pillar perfect all the time. The point is to be aware of where the stress or unhappiness is coming from, because your body listens to your mind. And when your foundation feels safe and balanced, your chances of conception naturally increase.

I’ll be diving deeper into some of these pillars in future posts, but for now, take this as an invitation to really reflect: are you truly happy with your life, and which areas need more balance?

You can visit the NSH if you want more conventional help for infertility.